Conversatio Divina

Part 9 of 16

Heal, Bless, and Send

Getting Practical about Prayer Ministry

Jacci Turner

My husband, David, is a marriage and family therapist. He had a couple that came in to deal with the wife’s Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder because her disorder was affecting their marriage. They scheduled a prayer ministry session and in that one session God moved her healing forward by years. Then David was able to help the couple focus on their marriage.

Knowing how to effectively pray for healing for others can be a huge gift. In this we follow Christ’s example, and he was all about healing. In Experiencing Healing Prayer, Rick Richardson writes, “Healing was absolutely central to the mission and ministry of Jesus. It was at the heart of what Jesus was all about. And since we are followers of Jesus, his message and ministry still need to define our message and ministry.”Rick Richardson, Experiencing Healing Prayer (Downers Grove, IL: 2005), 23.

If you are a spiritual director as I am, praying for and with directees may already be a part of your sessions together, but there are times when more is needed. It is then I take off my spiritual direction hat and make an appointment for a prayer ministry session.

01.  What Is Prayer Ministry?

Different churches and denominations call prayer ministry by different names. For example, it is variously called Elijah House Ministries (John and Paula Sanford), Sozo prayer, Theophostic prayer, and healing prayer. In general the goal of prayer ministry is to invite someone into the presence of Jesus and allow him to heal them. If a person leaves a prayer ministry session having experienced nothing more than the loving presence of Jesus, those praying for that person have done their job. It’s very similar to spiritual direction in that way, but how does it differ from other forms of prayer?  

Prayer ministry looks different from normal prayer. For one thing, it’s better done in a team, or with at least with two people, one as the lead prayer minister and one as the helper or “wingman.” Of course, this is not always possible, and I have often prayed for people one-on-one, but it is wonderful to have the extra discernment of a second person or team. 

Also, the physical posture of prayer ministry is different. It’s not “all heads bowed and all eyes closed.” The person receiving prayer ministry keeps their eyes closed throughout the prayer time. The lead and wing prayer ministers keep their eyes open. Why? To observe what is happening as they pray. For instance, if a person cries during prayer about a certain topic, you’d want to stay gently on that topic, just as you would in spiritual direction. There may be other signs of the Holy’s Sprit’s work: eye fluttering, smiles or expressions

of wonder. Conversely, there may be grimaces of pain, fear or shaking to alert the prayer minister to a malevolent presence. Another reason we keep our eyes open is to read Scriptures as the Spirit directs and then jot those down for the person being prayed for to have and refer to later. 

The job of the prayee is to stay focused on Jesus and listen to Him. The job of the prayer ministers is to be vertical, listening to Jesus and horizontal, listening to the person being prayed for. God may give Scriptures, words, songs, pictures or impressions to the prayer ministers or the prayee so listening is very important. 

The last major difference from traditional prayer forms is the conversation between the prayer minister and the prayee that takes place during the prayer. Before the prayer begins there is usually a very brief interview process. The prayer minister may ask, “What would you like Jesus to do for you today? Or “What would you like prayer for? Then the prayee will give a very brief summary of the issue. This is not a time for a long-winded counseling session; remember the goal is to bring a person into the presence of Jesus. During the prayer time the prayer minister may ask questions for clarification like, “What do you see?” “What’s happening now?” “Do you see Jesus?” It is most helpful for the prayee to keep their eyes closed while answering these questions in order to stay present to Jesus. 

02.  Areas of Prayer

There are five common areas when praying for people in prayer ministry: general, forgiveness, inner healing, dealing with demons and physical healing. I will illustrate each of these areas with a story from my own experience as a prayer minister. (I have changed the names and details to protect anonymity.) 

General. When training students in prayer ministry at a University in California with my husband David as my wingman, I asked for someone to volunteer to be prayed for. The room went absolutely still. I smiled and waited until the students began to feel uncomfortable. Finally a young Asian woman raised her hand, “I have trouble with being late,” she said. Not a gripping issue, I thought, but I had her come up for the demonstration anyway. 

I began, as I always do by asking Jesus to protect and guide our prayer time. Then I asked “Jesus, can you show Jane where this habit of being late got its start in her life?” Jesus took Jane back to a time in her childhood when she a “general prayer request” turned into a deep revelation about how she had unconsciously rebelled against her parents’ desire to control her by being constantly late. She was able to receive not only healing from that pattern, but the courage to ask her parents if she could go on a summer mission. We closed the prayer time by praying parental blessings over a sobbing Jane. Later I received a thank-you card from Jane. She shared how she had gone to her parents, boldly asking to go on the summer mission and was given permission to go. 

Taking general prayer requests seriously like this allows God to show us the deeper issues that often underlie our surface concerns. 

Forgiveness. Our hope in prayer ministry is that the prayee will be able to hear, see or otherwise receive from Jesus. Whenever the person we pray for is blocked from this, we need to ask an important question, “Is there anyone, including yourself, you need to forgive?” Unforgiveness often blocks our ability to see and hear God. 

Once I was praying for a young man who couldn’t see or hear Jesus no matter how hard he tried. I asked him, “Is there anyone you need to forgive?” He realized he was holding unforgiveness toward his brother, and we did a whole prayer ministry time focused on allowing God to drain away the bitter poison of his unforgiveness. The next time we prayed I asked if he could see Jesus and he replied, “I see him but he’s standing outside, behind a sliding glass door.” I encouraged him to open the door and go out to be with Jesus. When he did, Jesus took him down to a stream where they laughed and played in the water. At one point Jesus told him to open his hand to receive a gift. He stretched his hand toward Jesus and Jesus placed a pearl in it. It was a beautiful example of God’s desire to give us beauty for ashes and pearls for bitterness! 

Inner Healing. Inner healing prayer is probably the most common kind of prayer ministry. Both of the examples above became inner healing prayer even though they didn’t start out that way. Inner healing is inviting Jesus into the past to see where he was and what he wants to say to us about a painful experience. Since Jesus is outside of time, he is in the past, present and future. We need inner healing when we seem stuck in some area of our lives. Inner healing prayer is not always immediate. Long-term abuse issues need not only the care of a professional counselor, but a commitment to prayer ministry over time. One young woman came to me with a reoccurring fear that her husband would die. She knew it was an illogical fear but she just couldn’t shake it. We asked Jesus to show us where that fear got a hook in her. He took her a childhood memory of a fight her parents had. Her mom threatened to take her and go to another state to live with grandparents. As a little girl, she went to her father and begged him to ask them to stay. He did not. I asked if Jesus would show her where he was when this was happening. He showed the girl that he was standing next to her when she experienced her father’s rejection. He then held her close and told her he would never leave or forsake her. After this prayer session the constant fear of her husband’s death began to dissipate. 

Dealing with Demons. I am not a demon hunter (far from it), but demons are often part of the package when doing prayer ministry. I don’t believe demons can possess Christians but I have seen piles of evidence that they can oppress them. In general, there are three ways that people are demonized, or oppressed: First, they may be inherited from family involvement with demons, such as being from

a family that worshipped ancestors, families involved in the occult or with a pattern of generational sin. Second, they can come to us from an outside curse. This happens mostly to high profile Christians that Satan wants to sideline. Third, demons can gain permission through a person’s decision participate in patterns of sin—for instance pornography or addictions. 

The important thing to remember about demons is that Jesus has already conquered them on the cross and he has given us authority over them in our lives. In fact, I rarely deal with demons directly at all. In Charles Kraft’s book Deep Wounds, Deep Healing he says, “demons are like rats and rats go for ‘garbage,’ the kind of inner emotional and spiritual damage to which deep level healing seeks to bring health. If there are demons, then, there automatically is deep-level damage that needs to be healed.”Charles Kraft, Deep Wounds, Deep Healing (Ventura, CA: Regal Books, 1993), 258. Therefore, if through prayer we help a person receive cleansing, forgiveness and healing, then the garbage is cleaned away. The rats have nowhere to hide, lose power and leave. 

When I do need to deal directly with demons, I just ask Jesus to do it for me. Demons often try to be scary, presenting themselves as huge frightening beasts. I always ask Jesus to reveal what the demon truly looks like. Then I’ll ask Jesus to show the prayee what he wants to do with that thing, and he will usually do something very final, like stepping on it or locking it up in a box or making it dissolve. There is no shouting or power play or posturing. Just ask Jesus to gently deal with it and he will. I’ll give three stories about demons so you will get a better idea about how this part of prayer works. 

Once I was praying for a Christian musician who’d come to ask a rather simple prayer request. Suddenly, he was feeling tormented by demons who were chasing him around in a house from room to room. Being an inexperienced prayer minister, I let this go on for much too long, giving the demon too much power in this situation. Still, I didn’t know to look for where the demon was getting its rights to torment this young man. Finally, my wingman got a Scripture from the Old Testament describing an attack coming from the outside. I realized this demon got its permission from an outside source, a curse that had been brought against this high profile young man. Once I understood where it was coming from, we were able to pray against that curse, breaking if off and asking Jesus to deal with the demon for us. After that, things settled down and we could move on to the real issues at hand. 

I was sitting in a dorm room full of pentagrams where I met Sammy. She was dressed in black with dyed-black hair and thick black make-up. Sammy had a Christian roommate and had heard about healing prayer. She wanted Jesus and prayer healing but as we talked it became evident that her family had long been a part of occult involvement. She had “spirit guides” that helped her, and sometimes hurt her, but she wasn’t ready to let go of these family demons completely to follow Christ. I explained that Jesus wasn’t willing to share space with any other spirits, and she had to make a choice to get rid of them if she wanted him. Sammy wasn’t ready that day, but over the next few years continued her involvement in our fellowship. When she finally felt ready, she prayed to receive Christ. Then it was time for some spiritual house cleaning.  

I asked her to picture the cross of Jesus before her, and place each thing she felt was evil at the foot of the cross. I asked her to name each thing out loud so that I could hear. I assured her that as a child of God, she had the authority to send each thing out, breaking off any ties or hooks they had in her life. I coached her as she did this and it sounded something like this: “I put fear at the foot of the cross in the name of Jesus. I put suicide at the foot of the cross in the name of Jesus. I put death at the foot of the cross in the name of Jesus.” As she did this, the evil that had been a part of her family’s life since before she was born lost power and fled. She said that she felt more peaceful and lighter. A year later if you saw Sammy, you wouldn’t know it was the same girl. She had beautiful red hair and colorful clothes; she was changed from the inside out. 

Most often when I sense demonic activity during prayer ministry, I won’t even mention it to the prayee. I know that as they repent and receive healing, these things will naturally leave. Or, I may coach them to take the thing they are identifying as oppressive and send it to the foot of the cross in Jesus name. They don’t even need to know it was a demon for this to be effective. After prayer I will do a short “demons are like rats” explanation and encourage them continue to send things that come up, that are obviously not from Jesus, to the foot of the cross. This short training allows them to continue to gain spiritual strength and do their own spiritual house cleaning as the need arises. 

These may seem like dramatic examples but with the easy Internet access to pornography, the prevalence of broken homes, drug abuse and the culture fascination with the occult, demons have unprecedented ability to influence people in America. When I first started sharing these experiences with missionary friends, they said, “Jacci, that kind of stuff happens here on the mission field, not in America!” Unfortunately, this may have been true in the past, but not anymore. Demons are very common in prayer ministry but they are nothing to fear. As 1 John 4:4 reminds us, “Greater is he that is in you, than he that is in the world” (KJVScriptures marked (KJV) are from the King James Version of the Bible.). 

Physical Healing Prayer: This is one area I needed help with early in prayer ministry. I felt confident that God would forgive, heal past hurts and vanquish demons, but rarely have I seen God heal someone physically. And I could not pray with confidence because I wasn’t sure how. I felt the pressure that I needed a certain kind of faith, certain words or authority to pray for physical healing. 

I’ve learned that praying for physical healing is no different than any other kind of prayer ministry. As with spiritual direction, it’s not about me. It’s not about my faith, my words or my belief; it’s about Jesus. If someone comes for prayer for a physical issue, we pray the same way. Often we will find that the “stomach ache” goes away when the person receives inner healing of a hurt from the past. Or, a physical problem might be related to demonic oppression and sending the demon away might eliminate the pain. 

We need to remember our theology: God is good, he loves us and wants to heal, and it is okay to ask him to do that. He might do that right away, or his answer might be to wait. We live in the “now” and “not yet” world. We are “saved” by Christ’s death on the cross and we are “being saved every day.” Christ defeated Satan on the cross, yet he is still allowed some power in the world. God is good, and yet he is not a vending machine, he allows some prayers to go unanswered—or at least that is sometimes the way it feels to us. We should ask with assurance, and trust him with the outcome, just as we do with spiritual direction or the other areas of prayer ministry. 

Often we stop praying too soon for a physical issue. Ken Blue, in his book Authority to Heal writes, “Our experience is that most healings are not instantaneous but progressive. Persistent prayer is invaluable in this process.”Ken Blue, Authority to Heal (Downers Grove, IL: InterVarsity Press, 1987), 104. Once I was leading a weeklong prayer training with my husband David when a young man I’ll call Bob came to our room looking for prayer for healing from stomach pain. He reminded me of the woman with the flow of blood. Bob told our class how he had gone from doctor to doctor and endured test after test for the pain but nothing helped. The students were very excited to pray for him but extremely nervous. They gathered around and began to pray. We prayed for a long time but nothing was happening. 

David was standing outside the circle when he received discernment that this pain was connected to a mission’s trip the young man had taken to India. He felt God say he wanted to heal Bob slowly in order to increase the faith of the students in the class. He stepped in and asked the students to step back. He asked the young man to lift his hands to Jesus and focus on him. He told him that Jesus would begin to take the pain away over the next forty seconds. Almost at once Bob started to smile. David said, “The pain is lessening isn’t it?” Bob said “Yes, I can see Jesus drawing out this ugly black thing from my stomach.” Forty seconds later Bob was healed and the students’ faith was given a huge boost. That night Bob stood to testify to his healing in front of the whole camp. 

03.  Next Steps

If this method of prayer intrigues you, find some training to hone your skills. If not, find some people who know how to do this kind of prayer to add them to your resource list. For some of the people we minister to, prayer ministry may be the path by which God breaks through.

04.  One Last Note

My mentor in prayer ministry and coworker with InterVarsity, Laura Thiel, says you can boil prayer ministry down to three words: heal, bless, and send. Pray for healing, pray a blessing, and send the person out into the world to, in the words of Jesus to the healed demonic “Go home to your own people and tell them how much the Lord has done for you, and how he has had mercy on you.” (Mark 5:19, NIVScripture quotations marked (NIV) are taken from The Holy Bible, New International Version®. NIV®. Copyright © 1973, 1978, 1984, 2011 by Biblica, Inc.™ Used by permission. All rights reserved worldwide. The “NIV” and “New International Version” are trademarks registered in the United States Patent and Trademark Office by Biblica, Inc.™).

Footnotes

Jacci Turner is a licensed Marriage and Family therapist and certified Spiritual Director. She works as a Pastoral Care Specialist for InterVarsity Christian Fellowship in Reno, NV. In her free time she enjoys writing novels for young adults. For more information see www.JacciTurner.com.