01. Introduction
“I’m not sure why, but the church just doesn’t work for me anymore.” While she may not have realized or intended it, Susan“Susan” is not the real name of the person who spoke to me in my office. was putting voice to what she and many other faithful Christians are experiencing. They love Jesus. They want to grow. As evangelicals (or ex-evangelicals), they still desire to bring others into the kingdom. At the same time, the bible studies, service projects, and outreach opportunities that once compelled them in their early years of faith no longer do. They long for something “more,” but are unsure of what that “more” is. Some begin to wonder if they are “outgrowing” their faith. Others, for the first time in their lives, consider leaving the church.
To understand what’s going on with Susan and the countless others she represents, it is helpful to consider Janet Hagberg and Robert Guelich’s insights regarding stages in the life of faith.Janet O. Hagberg and Robert A. Guelich, The Critical Journey (Salem: Sheffield Publishing Company, 2005). Made popular by Peter Scazzero’s Emotionally Healthy Spirituality, Hagberg and Guelich’s research suggests that the journey of faith can be divided into six stages. While every faith journey is unique, and every model has its limitations, the following six stages of faith give us important insight as to why so many are “outgrowing” church:
- Stage 1 – A Recognition of God: Through curiosity, openness, and awe, a person comes to believe God is real. This stage is about awareness and conversion.
- Stage 2 – The Life of Discipleship: Through bible studies, teaching, reading, relationships, and experiences, the new believer grows in their understanding of who God is and who they are in relationship to God and the community of faith. This stage is about learning.
- Stage 3 – The Productive Life: Marked by the desire to make a difference, the disciple gets busy serving and putting into practice the teachings they have learned. This stage is about doing.
- Stage 4 – The Journey Inward: Most often brought about by a crisis of faith, this “inward turn” begins when a person’s experience of God no longer matches what they have learned about God. Often marked by uncertainty, doubt, unsettling questions, and a sense of losing their faith, this stage is about deconstruction.
- The Wall: While not a separate stage, The Wall marks the transition from following God for our sake to following God for God’s sake. It is aptly named “The Wall” because moving through it is difficult, requiring the release of ego, the surrender of the will, and the acceptance of God’s purposes over our own.
- Stage 5 – The Journey Outward: Many experience this stage as “being born-again . . . ” There is a renewed sense of awe and a deep knowing of oneself as God’s beloved. This outward turn is marked by a move away from self-centeredness towards others-centeredness, as well as a move from being driven by shame, duty, and unhealthy guilt to being drawn by the love of God. This stage is about a deeper, more authentic integration of faith and life.
- Stage 6 – The Life of Love: Marked by humility, sage wisdom acquired through life’s experiences, and a deep surrender to, and trust in, God, this final stage is about compassion for others, healthy detachment from worldly things, and a life fully abandoned to God.
What makes these stages of faith pertinent to Susan’s situation is that she had entered the “second half” of faith. Well into the Journey Inward (Stage 4) and bumping up against The Wall, Susan was uncertain as to what to do with her new season of faith. Unfortunately, so was her church . . . and so were all the other churches she tried. Tired of feeling like an outlier and unable to pretend she wasn’t, Susan made the decision to step away from church altogether.
As the pastor of Monte Vista Chapel for nearly 25 years, I both understand Susan’s story, and I grieve it. How much stronger would the church be if it could hold on to the Susans of the world? How much stronger would the Susans of this world be if they could hold on to the church? Unfortunately, we will never know the answers to these questions until the church learns to care for people along their entire spiritual journey. What follows are some thoughts about how church leaders might accomplish this difficult and perplexing task.
02. Stages 1 – 3: Evangelism, Discipleship, and Service
The reason for lumping these stages together is that, historically, the church has done well in helping people through the first half of their faith journey. Sermons, bible-studies, evangelism opportunities, and service projects are vital activities for the first three stages and are standard fare for much of the evangelical church. This is evidenced by the staggering number of resources available to leaders looking to shepherd their people through the early stages of faith. It is also worth noting that these stages are “institutionally efficient,” meaning they are easily scalable. Through structured programs, large numbers of people can be taught and discipled. With so few workers, and so large a task before them, it makes sense that stretched-thin church leaders put their energies in the first three stages of faith.
This isn’t to say these stages are not worthy of such energy. Churches who don’t evangelize, disciple their people well, and help them serve God and others will eventually die. In terms of growing a healthy church, there is no way around the Great Commission.In Matthew 28:18-20, Jesus tells us to go and make disciples; baptizing and teaching them to obey his teachings. At the same time, there is no way around the Great Commandments either!In Mark 12:30-31, Jesus instructs us to love God with our whole being and love our neighbors as ourselves. While loving God and others is certainly part of the first half of the faith journey, coming to love and trust God no matter the circumstances usually happens as we journey through the final three stages of faith.